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For today, Wednesday, August 26, 2015:

VANGUARD NEWSPAPER

Banks in dilemma over idle $5bn deposits
Indications emerged, yesterday, that banks in the country are now in a dilemma on what to do with an estimated $5 billion that is currently idle in their vaults.
Withdrawal of officers from VIPs: Police deploy men to airports, highways to enforce directive
President Muhammadu Buhari has ordered immediate reduction of policemen attached to dignitaries, directing that withdrawn officers should be redeployed to regular police duties. READ MORE…
FG reduces salaries of federal lawmakers
Chairman of the Revenue Mobilisation, Allocation and Fiscal Commission, RMAFC, Mr. Elias Mbam, disclosed yesterday that the Commission had started the process of trimming down the pay packages of the President, Senators, members of the House of Representatives, governors and all the elected public officials to reflect current economic realities. READ MORE…
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THE PUNCH NEWSPAPER
Past governments promoted corruption in oil sector – Buhari
President Muhammadu Buhari has berated past administrations for the current situation in which Nigeria is forced to spend billions of naira annually on subsidy for petroleum products. READ MORE…
NDLEA probes Arik attendant caught with N105m cocaine
Operatives of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency on Tuesday night stormed the headquarters of Arik Air in Ikeja Lagos following the arrest in London of a crew member of the airline for allegedly being in possession of cocaine.
Landlord sets tenant ablaze in Lagos
A landlord in the Idumota, Lagos Island area of Lagos State, Sola Solomon, has allegedly poured petrol and set fire to one of his tenants, identified simply as Abeeb
Lamorde to appear before Senate today
The Chairman, Senate Committee on Ethics, Privileges and Public Petitions, Senator Samuel Anyanwu, said on Tuesday that the upper chamber would go ahead with the planned probe of the Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, Ibrahim Lamorde, scheduled for today (Wednesday). READ MORE…
Nigerians abroad won’t be allowed to vote -Buhari
President Muhammadu Buhari on Tuesday in Abuja said Nigerians in Diaspora would still have to wait for sometimes before they can vote in Nigeria’s elections from their bases abroad.
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THE GUARDIAN
Southern leaders fault Buhari on anti-graft war, appointments
Southern political leaders under the aegis of Southern Nigeria Peoples Assembly (SNPA) have criticised President Muhammadu Buhari over what they described as selective appointments and war against corruption.
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THISDAY NEWSPAPER
With slowing growth, oil slump, petrol subsidy may be ready to go
With oil prices heading south in the international market and the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) announcing yesterday that Nigeria’s growth rate slowed to 2.35 per cent in the second quarter, the federal government has very few options than to seize on the opening presented by the oil slump to remove the subsidy on petrol. READ MORE…
RMAFC: New salary package for political office holders ready next month
Chairman of the Revenue Mobilisation, Allocation and Fiscal Commission, RMAFC, Mr. Elias Mbam, disclosed yesterday that the Commission had started the process of trimming down the pay packages of the President, Senators, members of the House of Representatives, governors and all the elected public officials to reflect current economic realities. READ MORE…
Teenagers bomb Damaturu, kill pregnant woman, themselves, three others
Six people, including two suspected suicide bombers, have died in two bomb explosions that occurred on Tuesday in Damaturu. READ MORE…
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BUSINESS DAY
Emefiele goes Malaysia way to keep dollar peg
Nigeria’s Central Bank (CBN) Governor Godwin Emefiele’s unorthodox policies aimed at maintaining the naira’s peg to the dollar, amid a global commodity rout and analysts calls for a devaluation mimics Malaysia’s response to the Asian financial crises of 1997.

Personal development: Talking to yourself actually means you are smart...here's why

If you have a presentation or interview, talking to yourself helps you practice and fine tune what you're going to say

Talking to oneself is mostly associated with schizophrenia, a mental illness but recent scientific study says it can also be a very positive and healthy behavior.

In an article from Elite Daily, the author, Gigi Engle, discusses about how talking to yourself is a sign of genius. She says, "The smartest people on earth talk to themselves. Look at the inner monologues of the greatest thinkers. Look at poetry! Look at history!"

Christine Schoenwald of YourTango lists some some scientific benefits of talking to yourself:

1. It improves performance and brain function. When you talk to yourself, it helps you to stay on task, keep focused, and improves your perception capabilities. In a study conducted by psychologists Gary Lupyan from University of Wisconsin-Madison and Daniel Swingley  from University of Pennsylvania, they found that using verbal clues helped when searching for lost objects.
2. It boost memory retention. When you talk out loud, it stimulates more sensory channels than when you subvocalize. You actually hear the sounds and you engage your emotions.
3. It helps you prepare and ultimately kill it at important meetings. If you have a presentation or interview, talking to yourself helps you practice and fine tune what you're going to say. If you practice something out loud enough, it will go smoother when you have to do it for real. Proper preparation helps to get rid of stress and anxiety, and you won't trip up over your words.
4. It motivates you. Especially if you use "you" instead of "I." Self-talk has been found to be even more effective if you use second person. Saying, "You can do it" works better than saying, "I can do it." Dr. Sanda Dolcos, a researcher at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign says, "Self-advice expressed using 'You' probably enables people to adopt a broader perspective."
5. It helps your self-esteem. When you compliment and encourage yourself, you get a confidence boost. Talk to yourself like you'd talk to your best friend. Talking to yourself isn't just something that children do; it's an important tool for adults as well. So go ahead and talk to the most important person in your life: you

Guinness World Record: 112-yr-old Japanese recognised as world's oldest man

Yasutaro Koide, who lives in the central Japanese city of Nagoya, received the formal designation on Friday as family and city dignitaries applauded.

Guinness World Records has formally recognized a 112-year-old Japanese as the world's oldest man.

Read: Student breaks gloves wearing record in 60 seconds

Yasutaro Koide, who lives in the central Japanese city of Nagoya, received the formal designation on Friday as family and city dignitaries applauded.

Koide was born on March 13, 1903, and worked as a tailor when he was younger.

He became the world's oldest man with the death of Sakari Momoi of Tokyo in July at age 112.

Koide says his secret to a long life is not to overdo, or drink or smoke.

His favorite food is bread.

Koide still can read the newspaper without glasses.

The world’s oldest person is Susannah Mushatt Jones of Brooklyn, New York, who celebrated her 116th birthday on Monday.

Researchers: Working long hours may increase stroke risk

The study led by researchers from University College London, was published in the journal The Lancet.

Researchers on Friday, August 21, revealed that working 55 hours or more per week, might be associated with greater risk of stroke and developing coronary heart disease, compared with working a standard 35 to 40 hours.

The study led by researchers from University College London, was published in the journal The Lancet.

Prof. Mika Kivimaki, who led the study, said they did a systematic review and meta-analysis of published studies and unpublished individual-level data examining the effects of longer working hours on cardiovascular disease.

He said the analysis of data from 25 studies involving 603,838 men and women from Europe, U.S. and Australia, were followed for an average of eight and a half years.

Kivimaki said in the final analysis they found a 13 per cent increased risk of incident coronary heart disease, in people working 55 hours, or more per week, compared with those putting in a normal 35 to 40 hour week.

He said further that there was another analysis of data from 17 studies involving 528,908 men and women who were followed up for an average of 7.2 years.

Kivimaki said in this researchers found a 1.3 times higher risk of stroke in individuals working 55 hours or more a week compared with those working standard hours.

He said most importantly, the researchers found that the longer people work, the higher their chances of a stroke.

"For example, compared with people who worked standard hours, those working between 41 and 48 hours had a 10 per cent higher risk of stroke, and those working 49 to 54 hours had a 27 per cent increased risk of stroke.

"We fully investigated the association between working hours and cardiovascular disease risk with greater precision than has previously been possible," he said.

Kivimaki said the researchers discovered that increasing health-risk behaviours, such as physical inactivity and high alcohol consumption, as well as repetitive triggering of the stress response, might increase the risk of stroke.

He stressed that the causal mechanisms of these relationships need to be better understood

What The Hell... Goat thieves stripped naked, paraded round town

While national treasury looters are treated like kings, these goat thieves are treated to humiliating ends.

Some times, one wonders why most Nigerians place priority on little things while the bigger ones are left alone.

A top journalist and blogger, Chris Kehinde-Nwandu posted this photo showing two men who stole goats being beaten, stripped naked and paraded around a town in one of the South Eastern states of the country while those who steal the nations common wealth running into billions of dollars are still walking free, living larger than large lives, with some of them given traditional titles and treated like royalty.

When will this type of jungle justice end?

Gone With The Wind: Man dies while performing rituals in his room

A man who was performing a sole ritual act has been found dead.

Neighbours of a 36-year-old man, Daniel Augustine, were dumbfounded when they found his corpse in his apartment in Akure, the Ondo State capital, with paraphernalia of a ritual sacrifice including one bottle of ‘schnapp gin,’ one bottle of bleach, a knife and two dead fowls, lending credence to the fact that he could have been indulging in a ritual process.

According to eyewitnesses, the young man who was an auxiliary nurse, had locked himself inside his during the rituals that eventually led to his death.

A neighbour told a source that co-tenants had been suspecting the activities of the late Augustine for a while due to the fact that he had turned his apartment to a mini-hospital where he used to perform abortions and whenever other tenants confronted him on his activities, he would threaten them with charms.

Another neighbour said it was around 11 am on a Sunday morning when the deceased's wife raised the alarm about the death and when other tenants rushed to his room after breaking the door leading to the sitting room, they met his dead body on the chair, naked.

When the wife was asked on how it could have happened, she narrated that her husband had told her he was travelling the night before, unknown to her, he had sneaked back to the apartment and locked himself in the sitting room where he carried out the rituals, ans she was shocked seeing the corpse the following morning.

The state Police Public Relation Officer (PPRO), Wole Ogodo, confirmed the incident, saying the matter had been transferred to the state Criminal Investigation Department (CID) for proper investigation.

Personal development: Are you alive or just living?...answer these 7 questions

Only a few people will actually live their dreams to the fullest, but it starts with seizing the day

Oscar Wilde once wrote, "To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all."

Only a few people will actually live their dreams to the fullest,  but it starts with seizing the day...living instead of just existing. In order to do that, here are some questions to ask yourself to figure out what your life is really like.

Holly Riordan of All Women Stalk lists some of these questions below:

1. Are you accomplishing anything?: Think about your goals in life. When you wake up in the morning, do you have a list of things that you want to accomplish, or are you just trying to make it through the day? If you're going through a rough #time, there's nothing wrong with focusing your energy on just making it until the next day. However, if things are going well for you, you need to set goals and accomplish them. They can be small #things, like calling up an old friend or finishing the painting you were working on. It doesn't matter what you strive to accomplish, as long as you make each day worthwhile by doing something you deem important.
2. Are you having fun: Life is meant to be enjoyed. It doesn't matter if you go out with your friends to have fun or if you watch movies on Netflix. It's just important to have something in your life, whether it's a TV show or a hobby, that makes you smile.
3. Do you feel: Do you get excited when things go your way and upset when #things go wrong? Even when you feel negative emotions, it's healthy. You don't want to feel numb. If you do, then you need to find help, so that you can experience the joys of fully living again.
4. Are you appreciative of what you have?: Everyone on this planet, even the miserable ones, have something to be thankful for. You should appreciate what you have, even if it isn't a lot. That way, you'll enjoy each and every moment you have.
5. Do you have any long term goals?: While it's important to accomplish little goals each day, you should also have long-term goals. For instance, you need to figure out what you want to do with your life in terms of a career. If you're in a serious #relationship, then you should also think about where you two aim to find a house and how many children you'd like.
6. Do you do what you want or what you are told?: When you're young, there are certain #things that you have to do, like go to school and certain doctor's appointments. However, once you hit #college, you should stop doing what your parents want and start doing what you want. No, that doesn't mean you should rebel and do dangerous activities. It just means that you can't let your parents pick your major and decide your future. That's all up to you.
7. Do you put in effort to enhance your life?: Your life isn't going to change unless you force it to change. That's why you won't feel like you're truly alive until you put in effort to enhance your life. Apply for a new job, make new friends, or try speed dating. Just do something to turn your luck around.

Nuptial etiquette: 5 things a bride must never do in front of her wedding guests

A bride misbehaving at her wedding will be remembered by guests for a long time to come

Every bride wants her wedding to be as perfect as ever without any hitches and to achieve that a bride must be as calm as possible and try not to be a 'bridezilla'.

A bride misbehaving at her wedding will be remembered by her guests for a long time to come. So it's important to remain as calm as possible though everything and anyone may be trying to get on your nerves.

Brides.com compiles a few inappropriate behaviours a bride must never be found guilty of doing:

1. Never argue with your fiancé in front of your wedding guests: Try not to fight during your wedding activities at all, but if you must have words, do it in a private place.
2. Don't be rude and disrespectful to your parents: Or your fiancé's parents — especially in front of other people, including your bridal party. Your behavior paints a very ugly face on a normally pretty bride.
3. Don't give a vendor a dressing down in public, even if they deserve it: No matter the error, you need them to fix it, right? If you yell at the DJ in front of your guests, he may pack up his stuff and leave instead of switching the music up to suit you.
4. Do not complain about the food or drinks to your guests: You chose the caterer and the menu. If the quality is not up to your standards, go to your wedding planner, or if you don't have one, talk to the chef directly. Quietly and in private. They want you to be happy, and if you're polite and don't try to humiliate them, they'll do their best to make you happy.
5. Never bash your fiancé's family to your friends and family during wedding events: Not even snarky remarks about their choice of attire. Even if you really can't stand a new sibling-in-law, this is not the place to talk about it. There are ears everywhere, and God forbid a friend of your fiancé's family overhears you. The damage to the relationship could be permanent.

Bridal tips: 7 smart ways to help reduce wedding costs for your bridesmaids and friends

It would be a smart move to step back and see how you can minimise costs for your bridesmaids and friends who would be part of the team organising your wedding

From the dresses, to travel, transportation, gifts and favors, your wedding can really take a tow on your bridesmaids in terms of cost. Especially when they don't have much to throw around.

It would be a smart move to step back and see how you can minimise costs for your bridesmaids and friends who would be part of the team organising your wedding.

In the end, they would be grateful to you for your thoughtfulness and strengthen your bond of friendship.
Laura Marie Meyers of PopSugar lists a few ways brides can help save costs for their friends and bridesmaids:

1.      Pick a Color, Not a Dress: The bridesmaid dress can be a major expense, and it's tough to pick one option that fits everyone's financial expectations. A solution: choose a color — a general "purple" — or multiple shades, as on a paint swatch, then let each pal find a dress that suits both her style and her budget. If you're worried that the range of hues won't work together, ask each friend to send you photos before they buy.

2.      Make the Bachelorette Party an Intimate Affair: When your bridesmaids ask for your guest list requests, you may be tempted to invite anyone and everyone to your bachelorette party — but remember that more people means more favors, more decorations, more knickknacks. The bigger the party, the greater the expenses, so be considerate of your bridesmaids' budgets and opt for a smaller, more intimate group of friends.

3.      Be Open Toward Shoe Options: Rather than selecting a specific brand and design, choose a general type of shoe — a nude wedge, for instance — or, again, a color. This gives the girls a bit more control as to how much they spend, and they may even own a pair that matches your request.

4.      Choose Accessories as Your Gift: Steer clear of saying that every girl must wear a certain type of jewelry. Instead, choose a simple piece as the gift for your bridesmaids: a bracelet, a necklace, or a simple pair of earrings. Not only will they appreciate the gesture, but the jewelry will also serve as a fun reminder of your big day.

5.      Choose a Budget-Friendly Bachelorette Party Location: To keep costs as low as possible, skip the jet-setting and stick to a nearby location. Choose a fun spot in your city or a nearby destination (road trip!) so that your friends aren't forced to pay for airfare on top of everything else. If you do opt for a place that requires flying, be sure to make plans early so that the girls can find the lowest possible pricing.                                                                                                                                   

6.      Keep It Short and Sweet: Sure, you want to make the party last as long as possible, but an extra long weekend can lead to extra high costs. Make it a one-night affair, or if you do choose to stay somewhere for several nights, plan to have just one "all-out" night and a couple more casual, low-key evenings. Try an at-home barbecue, a nostalgic sleepover, or your own DIY version of a wine tasting to keep the festivities budget-friendly.                                                                                                 

7.      Request Time, Not Gifts: If you're trying to give the girls' wallets a break, reach out and suggest that they skip the gifts. Instead, coordinate a craft day where the group can get together to help you with some DIY wedding details: stuffing invitations, putting together decorations, filling favor bags, etc. Let your bridesmaids know that their time and support is more valuable than anything else — and that by helping with the little things, they will make your big day all the more special (and stress-free). It's a win-win situation: they save money and you get a bit of extra help!

Magic Of The Musicals: Unique kind of Broadway show hits Nigerian stage

Prepare for some of Broadway’s most popular and beloved performance numbers in the biggest and most glamorous way

 
Thinking of the best way to celebrate Independence Day this year? How about celebrating it on Broadway? Yes, you read right. The best of Broadway musicals will be coming to Lagos in a unique way as Notes Inc. Media brings the magic of the stage to the city.
Prepare for some of Broadway’s most popular and beloved performance numbers in the biggest and most glamorous way you can think of! It will be happening at the Landmark Event Center on the 29 and 30 of September, with the grand finale holding on the 1 of October 2015.
The event will feature a roll call of Nigeria’s finest with some of the biggest celebrities performing popular Broadway numbers from shows like The Lion King, The Sound of Music and Mary Poppins, just to mention a few.
It promises to be fun and exciting, so brace yourselves and get ready as the biggest and most glamorous Broadway shows hit the Nigerian stage for a wholly Nigerian makeover.
Remember, it will be happening at the Landmark Event Center from the 29 of September through to the 1 of October 2015. I’m sure you can’t wait    

Personal relationships: 5 things you shouldn't worry about anymore

To live life to the fullest, your primary focus should be on wellness, on getting better and continuing to learn how to cope with any situation

To live life to the fullest, your primary focus should be on wellness, on getting better and continuing to learn how to cope with any situation, how to find joy and gratitude in your life, in the people who surround you.

Here are 5 things  people should stop worrying about:

1. My Love Life: Perhaps it seems a little silly to have this on the list. After all, I have a lot going on right now. Deciding whether or not to swipe right or left should perhaps be the last thing on my mind. But, my headache experience has been incredibly isolating at times, and this loneliness does get to me. I crave connection and contact in the midst of all of this. Beyond that, I don't feel particularly good about myself, my health and appearance. My lack of energy and forced inactivity has taken it's toll on my confidence and I worry about what this means for my ability to eventually find someone. My life is a lot for anyone to commit to take on right now. Maybe it's too much even to ask someone to consider. I worry that I am going to lose out on my chance to be in love in that singular, most intimate way. As I watch my friends get married and have babies, I worry that this is just not something in the cards for me. And, I want it. I want it all. I want to love and share my life with someone. But I also need to get well and be comfortable with my situation, who I am and what I am going through. I need this for me and I need this to be a partner to someone else. So, instead of worrying about a future of cats and bachelorhood, I will focus on being my best self and loving who and what I already have to the best of my ability. And, I will trust that the rest of it will come.
2. Keeping Up With My Peers: It's difficult not to feel a little insecure about my life right now. I am not financially stable. I do not have the independence I long for, that so many people my age are finally enjoying now that the economy has begun to shift and jobs are becoming available. It's hard not to look at others' success and worry about my own missteps. But I cannot measure my own success against that of my peers. I have to honor the setbacks. My health has undoubtedly taken a toll on what I thought I would have accomplished by now. But it's more than that. I have shifted the focus of my life, my career, numerous times, and am only just settling into what I really want to do. I can't worry about how all of this stacks up against everyone else. I have to measure my triumphs in a way that does not minimize them, but instead celebrates what I have been able to do. Just me. Life is not a competition and I am not running a race. I need to focus on being who I want to be and not let the rest of it matter so very much.
3. What Other People Think of My Situation: I wish it didn't matter how other people view me and my situation, but it does. I want people to understand and respect what I am going through. There are a few reasons for this. First, I worry that people don't believe me, or at least don't really appreciate how difficult things are for me on a daily basis. I worry that people think I am a life failure, that I've just gotten lazy or I don't try hard enough to overcome the obstacles my chronic pain sets forth. I guess I just worry that people are disappointed in me. Sometimes, I worry it's the people I love the most who might feel this way. This fear can be incapacitating. On the other hand, I want people to understand what I am going through because I crave the validation. I want people to pat me on the back and say "you are strong" or "you are brave" because sometimes I don't feel like either of those things and it's nice to hear someone say it. Sometimes I worry if they don't say it, they don't believe it, and it's not true. But I can't worry about any of that. It's not anybody else's responsibility to validate my situation. I know what I experience, I live it every day, and as much as I want others to understand it, they aren't me. I also can't forget that it's a lot to ask, for people to live in my struggle with me. As much as it takes out of me, it takes out of them too. I can't worry that people don't know exactly what I'm going through, when they show me every day that they love me and support me. That is enough.
4. The Life I Thought I Would Have: I just turned 27. I thought I would have more books published, or at least be a bit farther along in the publishing process by now. I thought I'd have gotten a substantial start on my next big project. I thought my career would be well under way. And, in some ways, it is. I have an agent, I am settling into new projects, both fiction and non-fiction, and I am working to build my own business and portfolio, put my sills to use and get paid for it. But none of this is happening at the pace I want. And, I worry that it's not enough, that I haven't gotten far enough, that the goals I have set myself are out of reach. This is unfair. I am working hard, and I have accomplished things. Yes, sometimes I have to take naps, and sometimes I go for days at a time where I can't work, where I can't even look at a computer screen, but that doesn't mean that I have given up. I push forward every day. I find ways to make it all work. I have to stop worrying about where I thought I'd be, and see the progress in where I've gotten.
5. The Future: It's impossible not to worry about the future. You don't have to have a chronic illness to know this is the case. And, there is some value in thinking about where you'd like to be in a few years. It's how we set goals, challenge ourselves, make changes for the better. The danger comes in obsessing about a future where you just can't imagine liking what you see. That's my problem. My search for answers, a cause and treatment for my headaches, has placed great emphasis on what things will look like after I get better. Like this is just a phase and I will somehow outgrow it. And, while I think this optimism is important to the healing process, chronic pain doesn't always work that way. There might not be a cure, a fix-all. It might be a constant, continuous journey. And I can't worry about what that means. I can't worry about the fact that my headache might not ever go away completely. I can't worry about what that means for the rest of my life. I have to focus on the here and now, what I'm doing today, and every day, to not just get by but to fill my life with joy and gratitude. And more than anything, I have to let that be enough for me

For couples only: 11 words you should never use during an argument

Using the wrong words during an argument with your partner could put an end to your relationship

Arguments between couples is normal as long as they are kept short and healthy. Letting anger escalate could could do more harm than good for you and your relationship. Using the wrong words during an argument with your partner could put an end to your relationship.

You can never take back harsh words said to your partner in the heat of an argument, but you can always caution yourself so you don't make such mistakes

Compiled by Women's Daily Mag, here are some words that should never be uttered in an argument:

1. You are such...an idiot, a moron, a mama’s boy: Actually, we’re talking about any offensive word there is. Your argument will be childish and immature if you use these kind of words. Don’t you ever forget that words have the power to hurt. Restrain yourself of using offensive words and talk to him by his name. Keep your dignity and good manners, even in a love war.
2. Why can't you be more like...Ana’s boyfriend? Your brother?: Comparing you partner with someone else may look like a good method for motivating him but these kind of comparison can make your argument even worse. So, lock those thoughts in your head. Just so you get it better, you think – Ana has lost some weight.If she can do it, I can do it, but if your partner says to you – Why can’t you lose some weight as Ana did?- you might find this offensive.
3. I want to break up: You may think that by saying this you”ll give a more serious tone to your argument and you will show that you can’t be taken for granted, but you might be facing with an agreement from your partner. If you really want to put an end of your relationship, wait for a calmer moment.
4. I hate you: If you let your argument escalate to this, the damage might be irreversible. This is one of those statements that you’ll wish to go back in time and stop yourself from saying this. Although said during a heated argument, these words can stick between you for a long time. So the rule is simple, NEVER say I hate you during an argument.
5. I'm not angry: You refuse to communicate and instead of having a healthy discussion, you turn your head to the side and claim that you’re not angry. Men know the meaning of “fine” so why expect that he’ll believe in you lie? Sit with him and tell him why you are angry, you’ll feel much better. If you weren’t angry, there wouldn’t’ be an argument in the first place.
6. I told you so: Oh, those sweet words that confirm your female intuition. They seem so powerful for you and so devastating for your partner. Telling him I told you so is like pouring gas in a fire. What good will come from your ego if the result is a horrible argument and not speaking for days?
7. You weren't like this before: People change and that’s normal. Change is a part of growing up and maturing physically and mentally. If your partner has changed a lot, there is a place and time and a different approach to talk about that. Bringing up this during your argument will take away the attention from the real issue and point out to an issue that doesn’t have anything to do with the argument.
8. It's all your fault: It takes two to tango and it takes two to argue. Even though you know that it’s his fault, you should point it out that much during your argument. Ask yourself this – What are you doing with this man who does everything wrong? Sure you don’ mean it, so don’t bring it up in an argument.
9. You're just like your mother/father: You must NEVER talk about his parents  during your argument. You’re offending your partner and his parents at the same time and that can be pretty painful. Anyway, who wants to hear bad words about his parents? We already said that comparing is bad, but comparing using his parents is the worst and that doesn’t lead to anything good.
10. My friends warned me: All men have nightmares from the intimate girl talks. They are aware that your friend’s opinion is very important, but sometimes that opinion can manage your relationship. You can’t tell your partner your friend’s opinion during the argument. It’s already enough that you two are having an argument, why drag your friends in it?
11. We're not doing that tonight: The holy Grail of women’s threats. There isn’t a more degrading statement during an argument. While making your partner feel bad, you restrain yourself from pleasure too. Making love after an argument is the best thing ever!